Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again. – Og Mandino
If you meet me on the street, I usually have a smile on for everyone. Be Kinder.
I am kind to strangers and friends alike. I know in general, I go by the policy of ‘Do unto others as you would wish done unto you.’ But I know that there’s one person that I am not kind to and I definitely need to work on: I am never, ever kind or nice to myself. I speak harshly to myself all the time, I put myself down, and I am really hard on myself, cutting myself no slack, no matter what the circumstance.
Why can’t I be nice to myself? It is so hard for me to break this habit of mean self-talk. My head is filled with degradations, and mean comments. I am my own worst bully. I don’t need enemies or bullies – I do it to myself.
I have really been trying to improve how I speak to myself. I don’t need to be mean to myself, in order to get things done or be successful. But I have realized that being nice to myself takes deliberate calculated effort.
I have to stop myself mid-sentence every single time.
Why are you so stupid? Why can’t you do anything right? And so on.
Now, my practice is to say sweet nothings to myself all day long – I pretend I’m my own lover, and I am being romantic and loving to myself. I will tell myself I look beautiful out of the blue. Or that I am awesome and I rock. I am amazing and I deserve a great life. I deserve love because I am so good.
Things like that.
It felt awkward at first. I felt stupid (a word that I really need to destroy out of my vocabulary). I wanted to stop after the first time. But loving someone is a practice, just like anything else. It takes time, effort, and practice. I have to remember every single moment every day to be kinder to myself. Do nice things for myself. Buy something just because I want it. Eat a piece of decadent chocolate because I LOVE myself.
Not wait for an occasion to be kind or nice. Just like a lover in a relationship would do all of these things, I have to do the same for myself.
I have started giving myself pep talks (kind talks) in the washroom or while I am walking in a busy, crowded street.
People might think I’m weird or insane, but the more important thing is that I know that I am loved by myself! The most important person to love me is me.
No one else will matter, if I truly love myself in the way that I am supposed to be loved – unconditionally, truly, wholly, perfectly.
I thought I would share this new experiment in loving myself with my readers. Do you have a similar practice?
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