In recent coaching sessions, one thing comes up over and over again. People don’t know what their life purpose is and they are extremely worried about it. They feel this sense of urgency with regards to it – this fear, doubt, anxiety, and frustration. They are afraid that they are running out of time. They are worried they aren’t going to ever find out their purpose. They are worried that they might not even have any talents or skills to present to the world.
What if I die without knowing my purpose? They ask me.
I sympathize with them. I really do. For years, I searched high and low for my life purpose. Why am I here, I asked the universe constantly. Now that I look back upon that time, I wonder if the universe got tired of being asked that question over and over again.
I have realized over the past few months that you don’t need to worry about ‘finding’ or ‘searching’ for your life purpose.
It’s like finding a soulmate. You just have to start doing the things you love, be happy, and your soulmate will just walk over to you one day while you are sitting in a coffeeshop reading ‘Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance’ for the tenth time.
The same thing happens with your life purpose.
- Start doing the things you love.
- Live as happily as you can.
- Live in the moment as much as possible.
- Meditate, do yoga, eat healthy, sleep, take care of yourself.
- Be the best version of yourself as much as possible.
- Be kind to everyone around you.
- Even if you aren’t getting paid for it, do what you like to do.
And you will notice out of the blue, your life purpose will trot up to you, tap on your shoulder, and say ‘Here I am. I hear we would be a good match.’
It’s miraculous really how that works out.
No waiting necessary.
Just relax and start going with the flow.
I know it’s counterproductive – you think you are supposed to be rushing about, being busy, doing things, making things happen. But how are you supposed to make connections and find your life purpose if you are too busy for it?
It’s like this quote below from ‘Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance.’
“The truth knocks on the door and you say, “Go away, I’m looking for the truth,” and so it goes away. Puzzling.”
Are you so busy that even if your life purpose bumped heads with you in the supermarket, your mind would be too full to actually notice it?
The minute you slow down, the minute you relax, the minute you sit on your couch staring at your walls, purposeless, you are able to see more.
- You see connections you didn’t see before.
- You see people who can help you and who you can help.
- You see things about yourself that never came up before.
- You learn about yourself.
- You see truths in the universe that are universal and not so much.
- You are able to see joy in the little things in life.
- You end up wanting not as much.
- It becomes easier to fulfill your desires and goals.
It all becomes so easy as you can see.
It is like taking candy from a baby. You just have to lull the baby to sleep.
You have to slow down.